Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Some Thoughts on Pregnancy Weight

Taken 11/23/2014 at 27 weeks

Pregnancy weight. It happens!

Like many young females, I spent a good amount of years overly concerned about my weight and frame. It was mild concern, and then straight-up obsessive... and then less and less of a priority in my life. For anyone who has ever had an eating disorder, I'm not sure that weight ever truly becomes a non-issue. It hasn't for me, at least. My life is rich and full of happiness and good people, but every once in awhile there's still a wee, nagging voice that tugs at me.

I'm lucky to have people in my life who helped yester-Lindsay back to a better life. Five and a half years ago, one of those people asked me how things were going. "Things" was the general term for "those things that shall not be named," including, as I called them, food issues. I told her that things were really good and manageable and that I had accepted that my "normal" would just always be different than hers. She asked,

"What do you think will happen when you are pregnant one day? Will gaining weight make you unhappy?"

It was a valid question, but I knew right then and there that I would a) be strong and smart enough to stay healthy, b) be too overjoyed to worry about weight in an unhealthy way, and c) protect my child with everything I had. I may have been more hopeful than certain with those words back then, but I can now tell you that I was completely right. Pregnancy weight hasn't made me unhappy! (Thus, reminding me how healthy I am today!) Sure, I hassle my sister via text message (Why am I so big already? At 24 weeks, I look like you did at 30 weeks. WHAT THE HECK? This is the most I've ever weighed in my life. Blah, blah, blah...), but I'm happy. She reminds me that I'm growing a human being -- and a healthy one, at that!

Not to mention, women wear pregnancy differently. Some women are short. Some women are tall. Some women are large. Some women are small. Some women gain weight all over while some women look like they're hiding a basketball under their shirts. It just it what it is. There's no controlling it. Just make healthy choices and take great care in housing a precious baby.

To all the other mommies-to-be with expanding waist lines: You're doing a great job! Keep that baby safe and healthy. The rest will take care of itself. As other parents often tell us, "it's not about you anymore." Oh, so true!


Whitney H said...

One of the things that worries me most about getting pregnant is the weight issue. I'm afraid that I'll use pregnancy as an excuse to EAT ALL THE THINGS and then won't be able to lose what I've gained. Fingers crossed that I can hold it together! You're absolutely adorable and I can wait to meet the little one!

Tiara | a Happy Healthy Home said...

It's definitely been a mental struggle for me. And I'm extremely fortunate to be able to workout just as much as I did before. This along with making healthy food choices has allowed me to gain minimal weight and still be healthy.

Marie @ Life is a Highway said...

It's true, Lindsay, that we all wear our pregnancies differently. If you walked behind me during my first pregnancy, you'd never know I was pregnant. That's because I really watched what I ate, and my metabolism was high that my weight gain was just 24 pounds, and the baby was very healthy. I gained a little more weight with the second baby because those very nice ladies in the employees' dining room felt the need to feed me, and I fell for it! The third baby was a different story. I said "to hell with it", had a great time eating for two, and it showed post-pregnancy. It wasn't fun to lose the baby and mommy fat, but with proper diet and exercise, I lost 50 lbs. and ended up being one size smaller than my usual size! Strange thing, though, that all three babies' birth weights were nearly the same.

Ellie said...

My mom was actually not allowed to weigh herself at the doctor's office when she was pregnant with me because she ran the risk of it causing problems. That's actually, no joke, one of the many reasons that I'm afraid to ever get pregnant (provided I were ever given the opportunity), along with a long list of issues that I have with myself and the world that scare the hell out of me to pass on to future children. I have a hard enough time keeping myself in check right now and I'm not gaining any significant weight! You look beautiful, though, and I'm glad that she's healthy!

jolene said...

Thank you for this! I am 18 weeks pregnant and struggling with body image. Yes I know that the weight gain is for the health of my baby, but it's still a struggle. You look adorable and have the cutest bump!