No way. I have a job! And a social life! And a husband! I need to keep this mess in check.
What about one day?
Just a day? That's easy. (NOTE: I did it, and it wasn't easy.)
Sociologist-turned-blogger-turned-author Kjerstin Gruys proposed a "fun and adventurous challenge" to bloggers and readers last month on her blog, Mirror, Mirror Off the Wall. The challenge: A Day Without Mirrors.
Let me rewind. I heard of Kjerstin back in August 2011 when I read a Yahoo! article about a blogger who committed to a year without mirrors despite her wedding smack dab in the middle of it. I remember thinking, "Wow, that is ballsy. There is no way I could pull that off." Being that she is a sociologist and Ph.D. candidate at UCLA, her blog is a really great real-life application of scientific data.
Those who are uncomfortable with the term "feminism" can get a healthy dose of understanding too.
It's been just over a year since she completed her one-year challenge, and she penned her experience in a new book Mirror, Mirror Off the Wall (released May 2). Despite my mountain of reading for grad school, I couldn't put this down. I admit that mirrors are used for important things like flossing and driving, but obviously, Kjerstin's project was about appearance and self-esteem.
Her story is relatable. To this day, I've never heard someone say, "I love how I look, and I wouldn't change a thing." There has always been something -- a scar, bulky thighs, bushy eyebrows, love handles, crooked teeth, pale skin, chicken legs, small breasts, being short, a big derriere, splotchy skin, etc. We tell ourselves these things, but let's be honest, the world tells us too. (Sometimes, strangers will say it straight to your face.)
Kjerstin's story reads like a blog post (though much more in-depth, of course) -- like intimate conversation. I could hear her saying those words over coffee with a friend, not just from behind a podium on a stage.
This book is a genuine look into an extreme personal experiment, and it is such a bold reminder that looks alone are such a small part of life. If how we feel about our looks brings us down, it's because we're forgetting (or worse, neglecting) what really makes us us.
This book also reminded me that while our image woes are the product of many things (our culture, the media, strangers, and ourselves), the discussion shouldn't end with blame. In our personal lives, how can we combat them? How do we determine our own self-worth? What kind of people do we surround ourselves with?
I don't have all the answers, but this book definitely has me thinking about these questions in a new light. Bravo to Kjerstin for following through with this idea and sharing it with the world!
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Tune in on Monday for my Day Without Mirrors (with a photo I'll probably regret posting)!