Your responses to last week's "Can I Take My Maiden Name Back?" post are, in a word, awesome. When you put something out there that defies tradition and the norm and then proceed to solicit feedback, there is no telling what will come back to you. Fortunately for me, all of you laced your comments with tact. Thank you! Here is a brief overview:
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8 of you were/are excited to take your husband's last name
6 of you never questioned taking your husband's last name
6 of you felt/feel conflicted about changing your last name
7 of you kept/plan to keep your maiden mane
1 of you hyphenated your last name
1 of you has never thought about it
3 of you made your maiden name your middle name
3 of you didn't express your opinion but said "Do whatever works for you!"
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Although there is a wide range of views, I sensed that most people agree that the only "right" way is for each couple to do what is "right" for them, and that makes me happy. I did get a few questions, too, so I thought I'd answer all here:
You're this far into your marriage, so why does it matter now?
1.) It matters to me. I'm very close with my family.
2.) My husband has no ties to his biological father and is indifferent about carrying on the name.
3.) See answer to next question.
Would the headache be worth it?
My cousin's family of five changed their last name to my maiden name in honor of the family, and they are so happy they made the switch. Additionally, my best friend's mom took back her maiden name years after having children. I think that if it is important to the person, the headache is worth it.
Did you consider making your maiden name your middle name?
I didn't want to part with my middle name either, because I'm named after my mom, so my maiden name is a second middle name. (Evidently, I just like complicating things.) Second middle names/initials are not permitted on IDs and credit cards, so it doesn't much matter.
Did you consider hyphenating your name?
We wouldn't want to hyphenate our names, but we've joked about splicing our names! I think one version is really beautiful and the other is silly. If you've Skyped with me, you know the silly one. :)
All in all, thank you for every comment, message, and tweet about this! I love that blogging gives me the opportunity to engage in conversation with so many people, alike and different. Just remember: We're all different, so it only makes sense that our marriages will look different. Celebrate that!